What The Holidays Are Like For Those Who Are Broken And Grieving
Not everyone is going to be celebrating the holidays.
The first Christmas after my dad died was unbearable. None of us could stand being home, so my mom, sister, and I hopped on a plane and went to Puerto Rico.
The pictures make it look like we had fun. We had cocktails and rode horses on the beach. But in truth, we were still so numb.
We couldn’t bear to be home because it was too painful. Usually, we would have spent Christmas with my mom’s family, but my aunt died the previous Christmas, which put a huge damper on the holiday spirit.
My family is not the only one like this. Many families have lost a loved one.
The unfortunate reality is that all celebrations and holidays are just more reminders of this. You will never forget that your loved one died. But it stings a little extra when they’re not around the kitchen table enjoying the holiday with you. There’s an absence in every picture taken of someone who should have been there.
Remember the holidays may not be as cheery for some. Some people don’t have families or have abusive families. It may force some of them back into painful positions, or they’re left alone to celebrate by themselves.
Be mindful this year of those who don’t have family or friends. Of the people who don’t have the same support as you. Of the people who have loved and lost.
Be thankful for your loved ones and kind to those who don’t have any.
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