How to Change Your Life With Better Self-Talk
It’s easy to be hard on yourself. You have extreme expectations you set for yourself. You see others, seemingly having it all handled and put together. You don’t know why you can’t be like them.
The simple truth is they’re lying.
I happen to be in an exceptional period in my life. My medication is working. I’m writing and working on something I love. I knit and play the piano for fun. I’m fulfilled.
I’m passionate. I have a purpose.
And I still don’t have my shit together. As good as it might seem on the outside, I’m still living at home, wishing to move away. I like my job, but it’s not a career I want to have forever.
There are still needs that are unmet and unaddressed. I’m starting to think you never have all your needs met all the time. They take turns.
You can self-criticize as much as you want, but is it getting you anywhere? No.
It’s okay to not have things figured out. It’s okay if you’re getting by. It’s okay if you don’t know what you’re doing and you’re struggling.
Focus on changing your self-talk.
Pay attention to what you’re telling yourself. When you spot something negative, point it out and recognize ‘This isn’t a helpful thought.’
Replace it with something positive.
Instead of thinking, ‘I’m not good at this,’ stop. Say to yourself, ‘I’m still learning and I will get better.’
Self-talk is important.
If you can afford a therapist, I recommend seeing one as they can help you point out unhelpful and damaging thought patterns.
You don’t have to feel bad.
You don’t have to criticize yourself.
You don’t have to live a life of negativity.
You can change your self-talk and change your world.
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